{"id":2263,"date":"2015-02-11T09:21:06","date_gmt":"2015-02-11T09:21:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/healthylivinglondon.com\/?p=2263"},"modified":"2015-02-09T06:33:05","modified_gmt":"2015-02-09T06:33:05","slug":"lack-self-love-ruining-health","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healthylivinglondon.com\/wellbeing\/lack-self-love-ruining-health\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Your Lack of Self-Love Could Be Ruining Your Health"},"content":{"rendered":"

**GUEST POST**<\/strong><\/p>\n

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,\u00a0deserve your love and affection.” \u2013\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Buddha<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"Why<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a sad truth I\u2019ve noticed over and over again, and that\u2019s that us girls are often our own worst enemy. We can sometimes be our harshest critic and spend much of our lives never feeling like we\u2019re enough so we go on this never-ending quest to better ourselves or maybe even try to be someone we\u2019re not. We still haven\u2019t got to grips with the fact that being our own best friend is actually the most productive road to take in life. Now I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s a bad thing to want more or be ambitious, but have you ever stopped to think about how your inner critic could be ruining your health?<\/p>\n

I used to feel very intimidated by women who \u2018loved themselves\u2019 and often made the assumption that self-assurance and confidence equalled arrogance. Little did I realise that I could have had some of that fabulous confidence for myself had I learnt how to practice the art of loving myself and being grateful for my body.<\/p>\n

For a long time, I didn\u2019t love the person I was very much at all and had become very stuck in life, at work and in my relationship, and therefore very depressed. This stuck place not only had a huge detrimental effect on my physical health but also on what I believed to be true for me. And that core belief was that happiness and confidence were reserved for other people and that it was my fault that I was in my situation. For a long time, there was a very heavy sense of permanence to life for me and I some very loud negative internal voices.<\/p>\n

As women, I think we\u2019re often unaware of our own power and potential, and sometimes when we do begin to feel its full force, we are terrified of it. But it\u2019s our fears that keep us most stuck in life, not just in terms of career or deciding what to do next, but in how we feel about our bodies and the ways we are able to stay connected to who we really are.<\/p>\n

The problem with the hectic world we live in, especially in a city like London, is that we\u2019re all so busy going from one place to the next we don\u2019t get time to stop and recalibrate, and we have become used to feeling hyper-active and stressed, so feeling tense is now a normal state. When we slow down to try a yoga class or do some meditation, we are terrified of that stillness because it means we finally have to listen to what\u2019s really going on in our body and many of us aren\u2019t always going to like what comes up.<\/p>\n

\"cultivate<\/a>Prolonged periods of stress can wreak havoc not only on our bodies and our overall health, but also on our emotional well-being. When we are stressed, we\u2019re not breathing fully and deeply, we don\u2019t feel connected, and we make bad decisions, or are sometimes unable to make any decisions at all. That was me for years, stuck in a place of complete indecision, unable to figure out where to go next, but in a lot of emotional and physical pain. I was bored of partying and drinking outside of work but I continued to do it because it blocked out what I didn\u2019t want to hear, which was that I needed to make some drastic changes and fast. What I didn\u2019t realise though, was that I needed to listen to my body and my heart more than I needed to listen to my tired and overworked brain.<\/p>\n

Our infinite wisdom actually comes from all of the beauty we possess from the neck down. Our intestines are our second brain, they are a processing organ. Ever heard the phrase, listen to your gut? This is the place in your body that you nourish each day, so if you\u2019re shut off from it, no wonder you feel so stressed and experience digestive issues. And then there\u2019s our heart. Our poor little heart often gets left out of the equation in life, but it\u2019s the most precious and vital organ in the body, so why do we ignore it so much?<\/p>\n

Self-love is the practice of learning to love your body and the whole of YOU<\/strong>, just as you are and becoming very connected to your heart and what it needs. As without doing this first, the brain will remain overloaded and guide you in the wrong direction. Getting back in our bodies and listening to our hearts is essential to us being able to tap back into what makes us feel good, turn down the volume on our fears and bullshit, and be able to move forward in life with clarity and assurance.<\/p>\n

Self-love isn\u2019t always so poetic; sometimes it\u2019s a nice big triple back flip kick in the ass. You\u2019ve got to call yourself on your own nonsense; on the incredibly efficient way you can be self-destructive.\u00a0<\/em>?\u00a0<\/em>Steve Maraboli<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Here are some of the ways you can begin to cultivate a daily self-love practice:<\/p>\n

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  1. \n
    Practice Being Grateful for Your Body<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Take a few minutes in front of the\u00a0mirror each morning and practice gratitude for your body. Notice the beautiful things about yourself. If you can\u2019t think of anything at first,\u00a0stand there each morning until you think of at least one and I promise that eventually the list\u00a0of things you love and <\/em>appreciate about yourself<\/em><\/a>,<\/em>\u00a0and those around you, <\/em>will magically grow.\u00a0Gratitude is a powerful practice and has been scientifically proven to increase our brain\u2019s dopamine production \u2013 the hormone that makes us feel all warm and fuzzy.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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    1. \n
      Be Kind to Yourself<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Taking care of your body<\/em><\/a>, treating yourself to a massage, exercising\u00a0regularly and becoming mindful of what you eat will not only\u00a0boost your self-confidence, but it\u2019s also the practice of self-care. I recommend beginning a yoga and meditation practice to anyone who has been feeling burnt out. Yoga cultivates unprecedented body-awareness, and finding that stillness whilst breathing into areas of the body that are aching or tired helps you begin to learn to treat your body just as you would a dear friend. <\/em><\/p>\n

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      1. \n
        Celebrate Your Individuality<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Life is way too short to worry about everything being perfect. It\u2019s all out of our control, and that includes the way we look and come across to others. Stressing out about how to be someone you\u2019re not, at work and anywhere else in life, is exhausting and it\u2019s only a matter of time before your body will hate you for doing that by showing up all kinds of nasty symptoms. Get really curious about the unique qualities that make you beautiful and spend your energy on you, not what someone else wants you to be.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n

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          Let Go of Judgement<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Sometimes when we are being hard on ourselves and in our\u00a0deepest moments of insecurity, we can be extremely judgemental\u00a0of others. It\u2019s a\u00a0bizarre way of making ourselves feel better, but as we all know it is deeply unkind. Catch\u00a0yourself the next time you notice you or those around you judging the way other people\u00a0look or behave, and refrain from joining in with critical gossip if you find yourself surrounded\u00a0by it or work in a highly competitive environment. Practicing kindness and acceptance towards others is the first step to\u00a0<\/em>becoming more\u00a0<\/em>mindful<\/em>\u00a0<\/em>about our\u00a0<\/em>own thoughts and actions<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

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          1. \n
            Begin to Notice Your Internal Critic<\/strong><\/h5>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Watch<\/em> how\u00a0you talk to yourself. How many times a day do you tell yourself something negative?\u00a0Would you say these things to your best friend? Start to learn to turn down the volume on your\u00a0inner critic, swap your\u00a0<\/em>negative statements<\/em><\/a>\u00a0<\/em>for positive ones, and begin to become your own\u00a0best friend.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

            \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

            Natalie Edwards is a Health & Mindfulness Coach and Forrest yoga teacher. She specialises in working with women with the same negative body image issues and feelings of low self-worth which held her back in her life and career for many years. Fascinated by the body-mind connection, through powerful mindfulness, yoga, meditation and health coaching, she helps people reconnect to their bodies, uncover hidden parts of themselves, and come back to a more inspired and truthful way of living. You can find out more about her at\u00a0<\/em>www.natedwards.co.uk.<\/em><\/a><\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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